Your personal guide to
swinging, lifestyle & ethical non-monogomay
Are you looking for a different kind of lifestyle event? … check out my:
April 10-11 and April 17-20
In the mountains of Utah. It’s an intimate retreat with like-minded couples.
Experience:
Connection with your partner
Lifestyle community
Fun and relaxation in a beautiful setting
Conscious Couples Mountain Retreats
Not sure where to begin? These guides will help you start the conversation:
START HERE
Interested in or curious about swinging or non-monogamy (ENM), but unsure how to bring it up to your partner? Download this free guide to start your journey!
A couples guide and quiz to know if ENM is right for you. Download this free guide to start the conversation.
Your starting point for stress-free ENM agreements. Download this paid guide with clear categories, real-world examples, and conversation prompts to help you and your partner feel confident from the very beginning.
A Different Way to Think About Love
For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love and Life from a Non-Monogamist
Part memoir, part relationship guide, this book explores the unexpected lessons my husband and I learned while navigating ethical non-monogamy.
It’s not really a book about swinging. It’s a book about communication, self-expression, and designing relationships on purpose.
Whether you’re curious about ENM or simply want a stronger partnership, these lessons challenge conventional relationship rules and offer a different way forward.
Amazon AI compilation of all text reviews:
“Customers find the book provides invaluable guidance, with profound emotional insights and deeply personal stories. Moreover, the book offers an approachable exploration of relationships, with one customer noting how it beautifully ties into the lessons shared. Additionally, they appreciate its thought-provoking nature and find it engaging and easy to read.”
Considering Ethical Non-Monogamy??
Protect the most important thing: your relationship.
If you’re curious about ethical non-monogamy but feel nervous or unsure, that’s completely normal. Most couples start exactly there. Instead of focusing on fears and unknowns, we focus on what you want to preserve in your relationship and what you want to create together.
There will be questions. Probably more than you expect.
I know, because I’ve been there.
Together we’ll explore the conversations, boundaries, and decisions that help couples move forward with clarity, confidence, and mutual respect.
Because when everyone feels safe and aligned…
it can be mind-blowing.
Work with Lauren
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Couples Coaching
The ideal choice if you want a personalized approach with the utmost of privacy.
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Online Courses
Small groups and webinars designed to help you create and navigate the lifestyle experiences of your dreams.
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In-Person Retreats/Events
Lifestyle experiences you’ll never forget. In-person retreats to beautiful destinations with beautiful people.
Check out my podcast, created because I haaaate it when people who don’t know anything about non-monogamy try to portray anything about the non-monogamous community. What started as a reaction podcast to the reality TV show The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, we now discuss where swinging/ENM shows up in main stream media and other shows. Join me, alongside my co-host Ben, an ex-LDS polyamorous friend. Together, we peel back the curtain on how the media portrays ENM.
Featured Podcast Appearances
Swinger Podcasts
Hump Day Quickies: From Jealousy to Joy - Lauren Hayes unravels your lifestyle dilemmas.
Hump Day Quickies: Lauren Hayes’ Wild Journey & Spicy Love Dilemmas
Our Secret Spot: Lessons on Love and Life from a Non-Monogamist
The Sexy Lifestyle with Carol & David: Swinging, the Lifestyle, and Non-Monogamy
That Other Lifestyle: Challenging Monogamy: Insights from Lauren Hayes on Ethical Monogamy
Relationship Diversity: What Monogamous Couples Can Learn from Swingers to Transform Love and Intimacy (ENM podcast)
The Monogamish Marriage: On Sacred Sexuality
The Pineapple Express with @sexyswingerchic91. How to approach your partner about the swinger lifestyle with Coach Lauren (me).
The Swing Nation podcast: Swinger ‘What Ifs’
Our Secret Spot with Lawrence. We talked about The Questions Every Swinging Couple Ask. And then..
The Conversation That Every Lifestyle Couple Should be Having.
The Swing Nation podcast. Swinging 101 Playground not Required
Find more swinger podcasts at Fun Stuff
vanilla podcasts
Listen as I spread the word about what ENM and swinging is really about. Then share with your vanilla friends!
The Big Four Oh! Turning 40 and re-writing the rules of love
Billified: Swinging Lifestyle Coaching… (I’m approx 30 min in)
Spicy Midlife Women: Midlife, Monogamy Options, and Ethical Non-Monogamy with Lauren Hayes
The Light Within: How to Build a Better Relationship
Not so Secret Lives: Swinging State of Mind: Love, Lust and ENM This is a spicy-vanilla one!
One More Thing Before You Go: Spirituality and Sexuality: A Journey into Ethical Non-Monogamy
Bringing Intimacy Back: Your Guide to Ethically Non-Monogamous Relationships
Critical Conversations: with Karissa Dean, or YouTube
Madness Cafe: Ethical Non-Monogamy, Swingers and Polyamory: Could The Lifestyle Be Right For You? with guest Lauren Hayes
Label Free Podcast: Breaking Stereotypes: Understanding the Swinging Community
Getting Reflective- A Podcast About Unlearning: Lessons in love from a non-monogamist
Ple^sure Principles: Unlocking Authentic Connections through Ethical Non-Monogamy
Please Me! Podcast with Eve: Exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy: A Beginner’s Guide to Swinging & Polyamory
what is “the lifestyle”
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Ethical Non-Monogamy
Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and consensual non-monogamy (CNM) are, for most intents and purposes, the same thing and they are generic terms for participation in romantic relationships that are not completely exclusive between two people (who may or may not be in a committed relationship)…and everyone knows it.
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The Lifestyle
The Lifestyle is a general term used most by swingers for a community of people (usually couples) that are sexually open with other couples and/or singles. Couples in lifestyle usually consider themselves emotionally monogamous, but are open to sexual experiences with others. Everyone involved knows the arrangement of everyone else.
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Polyamory
Polyamory differs somewhat in that it is the practice of having or being open to multiple romantic relationships, again, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. While polyamory focuses on love, other forms tend to focus more on sex.
The thing to know
ENM, or Lifestyle, can be anything you want it to be as
long as everyone knows about it and everyone is
enthusiastically consenting.