Your personal guide to

swinging, lifestyle & ethical non-monogomay

Interested in or curious about swinging or non-monogamy (ENM), but unsure how to bring it up to your partner? Download this free guide to start your journey!

A couples guide and quiz to know if ENM is right for you. Download this free guide to start the conversation.

Check out my podcast, created because I haaaate it when people who don’t know anything about non-monogamy try to portray anything about the non-monogamous community. Join me, alongside my co-host Ben, an ex-LDS polyamorous friend, as we dive into the reality TV show The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Together, we peel back the curtain on how the show portrays relationships, particularly in the LDS and swinger communities.

Listen up.

Swinger Podcasts

The Monogamish Marriage: On Sacred Sexuality

The Swing Nation podcast: Swinger ‘What Ifs’

The Pineapple Express with @sexyswingerchic91. How to approach your partner about the swinger lifestyle with Coach Lauren (me). Episode 41. Listen here or wherever you get your podcasts.

The Swing Nation podcast. Swinging 101 Playground not Required

Find more swinger podcasts at Fun Stuff

vanilla podcasts

Listen as I spread the word about what ENM and swinging is really about. Then share with your vanilla friends!

Please Me! Podcast with Eve: Exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy: A Beginner’s Guide to Swinging & Polyamory

They Not Like Us: Empowerment through Ethical Non-Monogamy .

The Not So Bad Bachelor Pad: Swinging Secrets: From PTA Mom to Wild Nights.

The Scuttlebutt Podcast: Couples Counseling 44 with Lauren Hayes

Know More Know Less: Ethical Non-Monogamy: "It's Not Just About Sex" w/ Lauren Hayes (#72)

Amsterdam Talk: ENM: An Ethical Non-Monogamy lifestyle

Anonymous Andrew: Ethical Non-Monogamy w/Lauren Hayes

HUSH! by Kim. “What does it mean to be ethically non-monogamous?” and “Can monogamous couples learn something from those who are non-monogamous?”

LOA Today podcast: host Walt Thiessen and guest Jodi Lynn Cray welcomed me “to discuss the often-misunderstood world of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and the swinging lifestyle.”

Holistic Hotties with Catherine Mansfield . Choosing the Most Conscious Love: Redefining "Love" Through the Lens of ENM.

what is “lifestyle”

  • Ethical Non-Monogamy

    Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and consensual non-monogamy (CNM) are, for most intents and purposes, the same thing and they are generic terms for participation in romantic relationships that are not completely exclusive between two people (who may or may not be in a committed relationship)…and everyone knows it.

  • Lifestyle

    Lifestyle is a general term used for a community of people (usually couples) that are sexually open with other couples and/or singles. Couples in lifestyle usually consider themselves emotionally monogamous, but are open to sexual experiences with others. Everyone involved knows the arrangement of everyone else.

  • Polyamory

    Polyamory differs somewhat in that it is the practice of having or being open to multiple romantic relationships, again, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. While polyamory focuses on love, other forms tend to focus more on sex.

The thing to know

ENM, or Lifestyle, can be anything you want it to be as

long as everyone knows about it and everyone is

enthusiastically consenting.

why use a lifestyle coach?

because it’s only amazing when you are both having fun. but then…

Protect the most important thing: your relationship. If you are interested in ethical non-monogamy (ENM), but feel nervous or afraid, that is normal. Instead of focusing on your fears and the unknowns, I can help you focus on what you want to sustain and what you want to create together.

You’ll have lots of questions. I know because I’ve been there. I can answer your questions and those you don’t yet know to ask. I will guide you through conversations that you don’t yet know to have.

…It can be mind-blowing.

Work with Lauren

  • Couples Coaching

    The ideal choice if you want a personalized approach with the utmost of privacy.

  • Online Courses

    Small groups and webinars designed to help you create and navigate the lifestyle experiences of your dreams.

  • In-Person Retreats/Events

    Lifestyle experiences you’ll never forget. In-person retreats to beautiful destinations with beautiful people.